Chloe Sunderlandknown online as Roma Army, is a content creator of Romanian descent who lives in Calgary, Alberta. She built a large following by speaking openly about men’s issues. Chloe brings a direct, unfiltered voice to discussions about men’s mental health, dating and social expectations. Her content challenges traditional narratives and focuses on what she hears from men behind the scenes.
Chloe Social media is a judgment-free zone where men feel heard and respected. She regularly shares real messages and experiences from her audience, which shape her perspective and focus her work on everyday reality rather than theory.
Q: You talk a lot about young men “moving on.” What does that actually look like?
Chloe Sunderland: There isn’t always drama. Most of the time it’s quiet. Guys stop trying in school, don’t apply for good jobs, avoid dating, and are alone most of the time. From the outside, it may appear that they are lazy or unmotivated. When you actually talk to these men, many of them feel like nothing they do is going to matter anyway. So they step back.
Q: What do young men say in private that they don’t express publicly?
Chloe Sunderland: The most important thing is that they feel disposable. This word comes up more than people might think. They feel like they’re only cared about if they’re useful, and if they’re not successful, then they’re basically a ghost. Many of them also say they’re tired of being told they’re the problem, especially when they’re already struggling.
Q: Dating is a common topic in your content. What is the connection with this feeling of disengagement?
Chloe Sunderland: It’s in meetings that it hits the hardest, because it’s very personal. Guys tell me they feel like they’re constantly being nitpicked. After enough rejections or bad experiences, they stop trying. So people turn around and say, “Why aren’t men sociable anymore?” without wondering what made them that way in the first place.
Q: Some argue that this reflects resistance to changing gender roles. How do you respond to this?
Chloe Sunderland: I think it’s too simplistic. A lot of people I hear from are not against change. They don’t know what is expected of them now. The rules seem different, but no one really explains what the new ones are. So, instead of being wrong and being criticized, they choose to stay away completely.
Q: What do you think really helps men reconnect with life?
Chloe Sunderland: They want to feel like they matter as a person and not just as a provider. It can come from small things. Have a goal, even a simple one. Have a group of people who respect them. Plus, knowing they’re not alone helps a lot. Once that change happens, you start to see guys slowly take more risks again.
